When I was 13 and just starting to explore my sexuality I read a book called "Everything you wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask."

For the most part it was the usual 1960s-1970s era sex-ed book but the chapter on homosexuality was ... criminal.

It was *incredibly* homophobic. No hope, everything was terrible. It said things like queers will molest anyone they can, spend their lives masturbating in the back of porn theaters, etc etc etc.

Based on that description I *knew* that couldn't possibly be me so I must not have been gay, right?

It set me back *years* in acceptance of who I am. It wasn't like I had any counter-examples. This was the late 1970s and we had no good role models.

This is one of the reasons I'm out now, so kids can see someone who is successful and not living the way that book says. Being a counter example is very important to me.

When the book was reprinted in the early 2000s, they updated everything else but left that chapter pretty much intact.

*If* you share this book with a younger or questioning person, make damn sure you discuss the reality Vs what that book says. Better yet, don't share the book with anyone else.

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@nomad i'm surprised and disappointed that this book i've only ever heard of turns out to be so horrible

but in retrospect this was a book that as its very first linguistic interaction with the reader starts off with a title that

a) rudely imputes emotions onto a total stranger

b) frames the entire subject matter in terms of fear

c) has the gall to claim to literally have everything

@carcinopithecus At thirteen I was more interested in the single three-letter-word in the title than any of those issues.

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